The Identify Network

Have you ever been in a place in your life where you are at peace and settled but part of you feels ready to bolt at any time…. I have. I think it’s honestly been more of where I stay in my life than a place I get from time to time.

I’m feeling it big time lately! The past two months of going ALL IN to this new ministry has been so incredibly exciting, and also unbelievably exhausting.  I’m smiling as I write this because I see God’s hand all over this and at work in my life and the life of my husband in ways we haven’t ever experienced before. I can see how trusting Him through losing our son, through five quick one right after the other adoptions, through marriage difficulty, through a move across country, through the churches we’ve been members of, and through SO MUCH that He’s carried us to and through. I see how each and every thing has been preparing us to trust and obey, to take and leap and lead, to put it all out there and not look back, to tell our story and to give Him the pen to write more.

At first I was acting like we just would keep living life as usual and add a ministry on top of it all…. not so much.  We are starting a chapter of life where this is our life. It’s our family ministry, it’s our family being on mission together. And that will bring some awesomeness like having daddy home for most meals and getting to travel together. It will also bring some big time adjustments like not having summers off and me having to work with the ministry along side of Dan on a daily basis. We will adjust and we will find out what works best for our crew within our calling.

I have found in this process already two surprises in launching this ministry that I’ve been processing in my head and heart. They are things that weigh heavy on my heart as I fall asleep and when I wake up.  First, The Identify Network is FOR the Church.  And it’s in a way for the church who is struggling with things like loving others who don’t believe as we do, and understanding biblical sexuality, and having a posture of humility when it comes to some of the culture wars that are being waged right now.  It’s for the church that frustrates me because of the pain that I see it causing those I love.  It’s for the co-worker of mine (the only believer I worked with at the time) who overheard Dan’s testimony a few years ago and marched up to the christian school Dan worked at and demanded that a pervert like him be fired or else.  It’s for the church who when my friend confided in her friend that she was struggling with same-sex attraction found herself banned a few weeks later from the children’s department without ever having been talked to… only talked about. It’s for the small groups who when another friend finally found the courage to tell them about her past failures and current battle got chewed out because she had been leading in certain areas of the church and everyone else was so stunned that they just sat there and let her take the lecturing without a bit of grace. It’s for the christian  family who finds out their daughter is becoming their son and can’t handle the pain so they let her walk away into a new life without them.

It’s for them. It’s for a ton of others who do understand grace and love well… but I think where the most impact will be will be with those who don’t.

And the second thing that took my heart off guard is that we will probably lose friends along the way who don’t stand where we stand in the convictions of biblical sexuality. Friendships where previously it was fine that we disagreed… or where it might not have ever or would have ever come up even.  But because this is our focus and ministry calling and we will be very public about equipping the church and counseling those who are struggling and wanting out of a lifestyle that doesn’t identify with Christ, they will choose to distance themselves from us and probably even judge us, call us offensive, and think we are being spiritually abusive. I can to the best of my ability go after those friends and make sure that the conversation is clear and not misunderstood and let them know that it’s okay to disagree on this and still be friends. But I know that to some this will feel like a rejection of them altogether. And I hate that.

So be praying for my heart. Be praying for our family. This is going to grow fast and furious and part of that excites us and part of it scares us.

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Bulldogs of Belief 

For months I’ve wanted to hone in on a group of ladies to pour into in a greater capacity and to invest in their friendships more consistently.  Friendships are a huge part of my life and I’m not a huge fan of shallow relationships. Time and Deep conversation is definitely my love language! (although happy mail and cute gifts don’t hurt either!) I want to be that kind of friend to a specific group of gals in my life!

And I’ve found over the past few months that the ones who I have felt my heart drawn to are the same one who have been so encouraging to us and who who have asked to contribute to the needs of the ministry (which, ask any non-profit, are abundant in the first year or two). These precious friends are who I’m calling my “bulldogs of belief”. Their loyalty and love to Dan and I and the kids is something fierce and they grip hold of the gospel and don’t let go especially when we need reminding of it! They are the ones who are making sacrifices so that we can further the gospel in a dark and confusing part of the church and society right now.  I’ve got lots of exciting plans and ideas and can’t wait to spend time pouring into the lives of our support team in tangible and creative and consistent ways.

IF you want to be a part of this special group of ladies in my life, please email me at Caseylynn_78@yahoo.com.  It’s going to be so good!

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More Babies: 

Over the past few years I’ve been asked many times “do you think you’ll have any more children biologically?”  And honestly, I don’t know how to always answer that question. We don’t use birth control or actively try to not conceive a child. God’s opened my womb twice to the blessing of a baby and they are thriving in a kingdom much more awesome than life here. I know that I really don’t want to go through loss again. I know that God will sustain us though if we do have to walk that path again. And I know that I am fully satisfied and content with the children He has given us through adoption. In my heart I believe that this is the story He has written and is writing for us for a reason… for probably a million reasons.

And I kinda LOVE LOVE LOVE adoption!

We are still planning on adopting a little baby girl… hopefully THIS year!

She has a baby bed ready for her and she’s already taken over the majority of Abel’s dresser! <3

 I don’t really talk a lot about the details of what’s going on behind the scenes, but at any given time we are getting calls about potential birthparents, emailing back and forth with birthparents, and waiting for the match to be made official.  This takes time and it takes a lot of letting go and trusting God in each situation.

I have only to look at each of my kids and see how perfectly God placed them into my family. He knew those would be the kids He wanted to be ours and nothing could thwart that. I couldn’t have orchestrated it if I tried. So we get a call…. we say yes…. we wait… they pick another family…..we are bummed for a day or two… we wait… we get a call…..we say yes…. we email back and forth….. we rejoice that a birthmother decides to parent…. we wait… we get a call….we say yes… we email back and forth…. we email back and forth again…. we…..  to be continued.  😉

Best of Basket Coming Your way!  

In light of that… and we hope the adoption happens sooner than later…. HOW about we do a BEST OF BASKET Giveaway ????

I had so much fun with them 3 years ago with them….. It was clear ya’ll loved them too. So I’m teaming up with my good friends The Gerber Family who are bringing home two awesome kids home from China SOON!!!

I’ll have it up on the blog sometime the first week of August!  And it’s going to be BEAUTY-FULL!!!

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  • Nicole Wilson ConleyJuly 20, 2015 - 8:06 pm

    Best of Basket!!!!
    And baby girl coming one day!!!
    And going “all in”!!!
    I heart the Chappell family and continue to enjoy seeing how God molds and uses you in the lives of so many! Grace upon grace!ReplyCancel

  • Linda SueJuly 21, 2015 - 8:06 am

    Wow! So much going on! Praying for your latest ministry, and future addition to the Chappell clan! I imagine Abel will be an awesome big brother right along with the other big sisters and brothers!ReplyCancel

  • Rachel KeithJuly 21, 2015 - 10:17 am

    AHHH! I just love you so much. I want to hug your heart.

    So much information here! You were spelling out my feelings in the first third of this post, and so beautifully and purposefully. I am so thankful for the lives you both have led and the lives you both have witnessed to be affected and effective in such a way as you are, and will get to be.
    I love the clarification that this is for the Church and the Churched. I love the entire concept. I love the entire ministry. I will fight for Gods command to love and love well at any time. And that is what you are doing, and it makes me cry with warmth because sometimes it feels like there aren’t people out there who want to love and love well. Like you’re trying to move a giant bolder with a little rock. I love knowing that you both are so passionate in showing love in truth.

    The second third. Just. Oh my goodness. The waves of excitement. oof.

    And the third third. EEEEEEEKKKKKKK!!!!!!!! I LOVEEEEEE the baskets. Can I just tell you that every Thanksgiving season I ask to put out our Christmas things early, just so I can look at that beautiful nativity set? And those wonderful ornaments? And that wreath makes me grin every time I see it on our front door? I LOVE this way of funds raising. And they’re always just so stinkin cool!!ReplyCancel

When friends ask me what conferences to attend I usually say, I’m not sure, it depends on what you are looking for but let me tell you about my favorite conference I’ve ever went to.  It’s the Linger Conference. This year Ben stewart gave one of the best messages I’ve heard. It shot right to my heart and has lingered ever since. So I wanted to share it on here… but also so I could have a quick way to find it again when my heart needs the reminders of His sufficiency and provision.

“The world is unimpressed when we talk about the Prince of Peace but live lives of stress.”

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Someone was telling us today (as a form of encouragement I guess?) that it would be very difficult for us when we are in our 60’s and Abel passes away in his 20’s. (yes… I was making the same face you are.)

And that’s not the first time a person has made mention to his supposed short life span.

So I want to not get frustrated (it’s so hard not to) but instead educate with truth.

Did you know that in 1910 that very few babies who were born with Down syndrome lived past the age of 10? But today they live pretty average lifespans…definitely long past the age of 20. That’s because a lot of times heart defects can accompany Down syndrome… it’s not the down syndrome, it’s just something that can happen in a higher occasion than those without DS. In 1910 they didn’t have near the knowledge and medical treatment and equipment for heart defect repairs that they do now. We are so grateful for the gifts of medical treatment and trained surgeons!!

They also were often institutionalized and well, we’d probably not want to live long that way either.

What people rarely talk about is how freaking lucky any living person with Down syndrome is because he or she is in the 3-5% of babies who were not aborted after a T21 diagnosis.

I think that women won’t stop looking to termination as an option until we stop treating those living with Down syndrome or Spina Bifida or any other person who isn’t “typical” as a burden or a medical problem or as someone who will die early (not that that the length of life has anything to do with the value of that life) and/or cause us a great amount of suffering.

Let’s get out of the early 1900’s….. and embrace the opportunities and gifts of today!

#theluckyfew #downsyndromerocks #livelongandprosperlittlebuddy

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What an incredible first half of 2015!

It’s been 6 months of paradoxes for me.  It’s flown by but it’s crept forward. It’s been super stressful (I mean who tries to quit their job, start a ministry from scratch (check out Dan’s blog for more information about that), and adopt a baby girl with Down syndrome (possibly as early as October!!) in the same timeframe? we do!!)  but yet we’ve had an abundant amount of peace.  I’ve been so happy and fulfilled in living where we do but yet it doesn’t feel like home. I’m more intentional in my relationships than ever but some of the ones I care about the most feel the most distant. I’m getting better at saying No to things but the things I’m having to say No to are getting harder to say no to… and vice versa, the yeses are more of things that I know my future self will thank me for, not necessarily the me of today.  I’m more confident in my faith than at anytime before but yet need Christ more than ever to help my unbelief.

Life is hard and keeps me longing for eternity…. and yet amazingly beautiful and fulfilling.  It’s paradoxical.

Here are my weekly photo picks for a blog I’m so honored to be a part of called The Dallas Littles Club (which is sorta a DFW collection of photographers who take a weekly photo using their big cameras of their own kiddos!  Here’s the first half of 2015!

*and every one of these images were edited with Mastin Lab Film Presets for Lightroom. (I have the Kodak Portra set and Ilford B/W set) I LOVE these presets and they give me the classic look that I fell in love with when I shot film back in the day.

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  • Nicole ConleyJuly 2, 2015 - 1:06 pm

    Cutie patooties! How has it been a whole year since I got to see them again??? AND YOU! Ugh. Love y’all!ReplyCancel

This is a post highlighting my husbands story and how his story became intimately linked with mine. He’s written several blog posts about his testimony and how we are preparing to begin a network that will come along side of churches to counsel and care for those struggling with or loving family members who deal with Same sex attraction (SSA) and Same sex orientation (SSO).

It was our first date. I was smitten by this man’s zeal for Jesus and his dashing good looks. He wanted to be honest with me and told me what he’s telling you now. He shared how just a few months earlier his identity was in his homosexuality. I surely thought that would be our first and last date. I’m so glad God had other plans!

Read PART ONE of My husband’s story HERE.

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After almost two weeks of being without their daddy due to his summer phD class in Wash DC we are More than ready to pick him up tomorrow from the airport. When he gets home we will rest for a few days and then will hit the ground running, we have a non-profit ministry called The Identify Network to get up and going. So far it’s been similar to an adoption process…overwhelming and easy to feel unprepared and unqualified by the many details but when you take it baby step at a time it’s doable and Gods been so faithful to show us in many ways that this is what He’s placed in our heart for such a time as this. We want the church to be known by their love and the authenticity of their lives. We want those who are struggling with their sexual identity and those who are choosing identities not based in Christ to be heard, and loved and to be known…and not with an asterisks by their name. I know personally what it feels like to have my faith questioned, assumed the worst of and accused of leading others astray by my life choices by people who would rather throw stones instead of talk or come closer to see and hear and know. I don’t ever want to be that or to make someone else feel like my love is conditional or that my sin problem is somehow better or less than someone else’s. May I always be like a beggar telling other beggars where to find bread! My faith is in the only One who can change the human heart and change our desires and change the way we love others! 

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It’s easy to get overwhelmed in moments like these when friends and family and co-workers have widely differing beliefs and opinions on things. It’s easy to put those who disagree into a category that’s more distant than before you knew of their stance. But I understand that most of the time people don’t come to their convictions lightly. I know that sometimes we wish that we could believe something different or approach scripture with a different hermeneutic…. but our convictions stay…our hermeneutic is consistent…and our gospel driven love doesn’t change the way we feel about people. Living this way is challenging but worth it because our faith is rooted, loving people isn’t optional and our hope is finding our Identity in Christ alone.

I have long wished for the time where we could tell our love story in it’s fullest most God glorifying way! It’s here!!! In the second post of my husbands story he tells of how we met and the beauty and struggle that came with dating and marriage and how we are resting in His power and sanctification to carry us through all that is to come.

Check out PART TWO of our story… how we met and married and the abundant struggles but more abundant grace that we have come to live in! 

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I’m sitting here watching my kids in full summer mode… the mode where they eat fruit ALL day long and go from playing pretend and being so bored and back to playing over and over again.

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I want to say a lot on here… but then I don’t. I’m struggling in so many areas to know how to put what I’m thinking and feeling into words. I know that I’m not the last word on these issues but I know that He’s given me a voice and I want to use it to share what I know about Him. I know we live in a broken world that makes me long for the day when all will be made right again. But here’s the deal, when people don’t live for the Kingdom of God and for His Glory first and foremost… even at the cost of their comfort, safety and reputation, then we fail to live for what matters most and we will hurt and harm those around us and hinder them to know Him and see Him as Glorious!! 

When people who are trained to keep people safe only do so for some at the expense of harming others…. that’s not being Christ like, it’s letting anger and fear rage.

When people only support businesses who fall in line with what they believe and publicly call for a boycott others who don’t…. that’s not being Christ like, it’s letting law and judgement rule.

When families let things like personal convictions on drinking, holidays, lifestyles and other non salvation issues keep them from living in community… that’s not being Christ like, it’s being judgmental and selfish.

When people are mean and distant to their adoptive family friends because they aren’t doing it the way they think it should be done… that’s not Christ like, it’s letting pride and personal convictions take the throne.

We are a messy people who thankfully salvation and sanctification wasn’t put into our hands to accomplish! But more and more I’m longing for Christ’s return and a righting of wrongs and everything sad to be untrue. A new Kingdom of glory and goodness is coming… and it will be more real and tangible and incredible than the one we wake up to and fall weary to sleep in!

That’s where my hope is.

Come quickly Lord.

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To the mamas with rowdy boys who act before they think and who bounce off the walls and see EVERYTHING as something to either deconstruct, sword fight, climb, touch, throw, dig, or lick.

Keep on keeping on for the day will come when you will be so glad you endured and didn’t give up pressing into him.

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I’m so glad to have spent the past 5 years studying how this guy learns and training his heart towards obedience and his mind towards attentiveness. And I know I have a lot more studying to do in the coming years. Jack is the last person you think is listening or paying attention (he’s usually humming or talking or hanging upside down) but he by far hears and retains more than any of my other kids…and I’m serious you would think he’s worlds away when you’re trying to talk or share something with him, but he’s not!! (I wouldn’t know that though unless I intently study him)

I think we as moms want our training and mothering to pay off far sooner than it does and so we give up or switch courses or remain very frustrated when we don’t have results as quick as we want them. I’ve found that I’ve had to tell myself…”what kind of 20 year old do I want my child to be?” It’s when I think long term that usually the more immediate worries of the right now fade and the focus becomes that of their hearts. I know my kid will be reading, not wetting themselves, and not taking toys from their siblings when they are 20…or let’s hope so.  But will they love learning, respect boundaries, take initiative, and honor people? That is what I want to spend the bulk of my parenting on….but those are very often the things that take a whole lot longer to see cultivated.

I love movies like The black stallion and The man from snowy river. Movies starring magnificent horses who most everyone wants to shoot because they are wild and looked at as harmful and useless to a tamed society but then someone special comes along and they help turn this horse into the very one to do the unthinkable and accomplish the incredible! 

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Right now many of us moms are dealing with wild bucking hearts that are difficult to tame and society rolls their eyes at our efforts.  I want to be that special someone who celebrates and nurtures the great potential in them. A parent who trains with the end of the movie in mind when everyone’s jaw drops because an unexpected hero emerges!

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The first time I met Kari 2 years ago was when she showed up at my door with dinner and homemade watermelon sorbet. We had just adopted Abel and she contacted me and said “I’m bringing you dinner.” as a mom of 5 under 5 I didn’t argue!  We sat together and she was telling me about research and planning she was doing because she had a dream of opening a farm to cone local ice cream shop.  We became a part of the same book club and then we moved into the house right behind hers. The day we moved into our home we didn’t have anything in our fridge but we did have 4 pints of MELT ice cream in our freezer because she somehow knew that after moving in the dead of summer in Texas nothing says “I’m home” like ice cream!  I’m so glad God has brought this sweet and fascinating person as well as her sweet and fascinating frozen creations into my life.

If you live here in the DFW area… you have to take a trip to this  bright yellow shop of local and hand crafted ice-cream. Her flavors change with the seasons… but my all time favorite flavors is Salt Lick, so whenever she has it, get it before it’s gone!

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Check out our other adventures around Cowtown! 

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  • Ashley TremaineApril 12, 2015 - 3:05 pm

    I just recently started following you on IG, and came to your blog today. I live in Fort Worth and will be visiting Melt with my 4 kiddos soon!! Sounds yummy! I can’t wait to continue reading your blog and learning more about adoption. { I feel this desire in my heart that I can’t quite put my finger on, and feel God is working through me, but hasn’t made the way clear.}

    Anyways, beautiful blog…gonna go read more now!!ReplyCancel

Live the gospel in the things that no one sees.

Sacrifice for your children in places that only they will know about. Put their value ahead of yours.

Grow them up in the clean air of gospel living.

Your testimony to the gospel in the little details of your life is more valuable to them than you can imagine. If you tell them the gospel, but live to yourself, they will never believe it.

Give your life for theirs every day, joyfully. Lay down pettiness. Lay down fussiness. Lay down resentment about the dishes, about the laundry, about how no one knows how hard you work.

Stop clinging to yourself and cling to the cross.

There is more joy and more life and more laughter on the other side of death than you can possibly carry alone.”

– Rachel Jankovic, Mom Enough  *which is free in digital form in the link

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Always love joining Emily at Chatting at the sky for these monthly posts. I don’t always do one but when I do I find it’s a good challenge to write and mentally process the past month.

So here it goes.

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1. I HATE cold snowy weather…especially when you’re not prepared to go out in it….especially when it happens in March… in Texas…Twice!

I grew up in Alaska. I actually liked snow or at least didn’t hate it. But I think being in the South for the past 15 years has turned me into a warm weather lover…. well, that and having 5 little ones who going outside is pure therapy for them and their mama!  I must confess the first time it snowed in March I didn’t take a photo of them playing in it. I didn’t have it in me to get cold. I actually didn’t care to remember it. I felt a little guilty but got over it pretty quickly, but then it hit again… HUGE blanket of soft white fluffy snow. So in order to not tempt fate again… you can bet your ice cold bottom I took a photo that time.

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2. I learned the hard way that when your kid wants to eat a Fiber One bar for dinner and then wants another one and you think, “hey, it’s healthy what’s the harm, sure son.” Don’t do it! Or else that child will wake up at 0’dark thirty with all that lovely hard working fiber all over his sheets and body.

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the culprit/victim of the fiber one explosion! (our faces were not smiling that night)

 

 

3.  That my husband is a blogger! I’ve had the extreme privilege of learning from him the past 11 years of marriage as he reads constantly and thinks deeply about Christ and culture and then regurgitates it back to me. Now (as of this month) he finally has a place of his own in the world wide web sphere to write down those thoughts. We are going to have a big fun giveaway soon to celebrate our “beauty and the brains” blogging team that we’ve become. So keep a heads up for it.

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Aside from me, Abel just might be his number #1 fan!

 

3. b. That right now we both tend to write with a certain angst. I think partly it’s because we have been through such a journey the past 15 years of our lives and through the lessons of grief, struggle, having a transracial family, living in various economical neighborhoods, and just overall Jesus stripping us of the things we once took great pride in and taking our lives on a path that we didn’t ever expect to be on.  Someone said that they felt like we were bashing the church too much. It’s not that we hate the church… oh the contrary, we love the church very much!  We are the church.  It’s just that the more we study and see what the early church and the life of Christ was about the more we look around and wonder if we, especially as American believers, really understand what being the church looks like on a day to day basis. And we are battling that ourselves and what that looks like in our lives most of all.  I think its also a great way to document our faith through years… I want my kids to know that we weren’t afraid to ask questions or challenge the norm or dive into difficult topics. Because they too will have to ask hard questions and deal with a culture that they will either see Jesus as set apart from or working within.  So, I guess you can say that sometimes… we do get angsty and sometimes we get get praisy and passionate and sometimes we post awesome music videos we find on You tube like this one.  :)

* Have you heard of this guy? I hadn’t until last night actually. He’s SO awesome! His mashups are incredible.  I really like his Summer hits of 2014 Mash up! 

4. I don’t like Meyer lemons. I made a cake with Texas Meyer lemon and despite the warm yellow wonderfulness that I wanted it to be, I didn’t like it at all. It didn’t have the punchy tartness a regular lemon would have…did not know this when I bought it, but now I do. But I took a photo of it before I tried it… so at least it looked pretty.   I am on the hunt for the best lemon bundt cake recipe… so if you know of one send it my way!

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5. I think this is something that I re-learn every month but I just am not good at limbo. Limbo in relationships… (which is probably why I made poor Dan have way too many DTR talks during our dating process), Limbo in parenthood… the chapter between being a baby and when school starts FEELS like limbo land… but it’s not. But it still feels that way many a time. So I think again, I tend to struggle with finding the settledness I long for in a phase that is soon to pass (and I know I will look back and miss it greatly) but during the day can feel like it will last forever. Limbo in timelines… God transcends time so timelines are only a small piece of the big picture to Him but to this impatient person they are a big deal and I generally have to go running to Him to calm my heart and remind me that He’s got this, it may not be the this I’m thinking of but whatever it may be He’s got it taken care of and He’s already there so I need to chill the heck out! Limbo in communication… I hate not knowing where I stand with someone in a conflict. It’s probably why I press too hard too fast for answers or for resolve. I’m awful at waiting for someone to text/email me back. (and I know that’s like the pot calling the kettle black because Lord knows how many emails slip past me unanswered) But I think, depending on from which side you look at it, that I’m going to be great at keeping in touch with my kids as they grow up… Kids, you don’t text me back, I’ll text all your friends and your friends parents to find out where you are and who chopped off your fingers keeping you from texting me back. Oh the joys they have to look forward to of having me as their mom. 😉

So as I read over this one…  I think I really should title it as #5  I’m just not good at being patient.

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 If you’d like to see what I’ve been learning over the past two years with these scattered monthly posts…. go HERE. 

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  • Linda@CreeksideMarch 31, 2015 - 8:05 am

    Hi from Emily’s place! Wow, that first picture breaths life and laughter, joy and enthusiasm all in one shot.

    2 of our 7 grandchildren are adopted … I so hear your heart.

    Great to meet you this morning. And your family!ReplyCancel

  • ClaireMarch 31, 2015 - 8:44 am

    Uh-oh! The fiber story is real life. Happened to us once but it was prune juice with our three year old daughter. Eeeek!ReplyCancel

  • TanyaMarch 31, 2015 - 9:17 am

    Hellooo from Emily’s 😀
    Your kids are gorgeous. The end.
    Thanks for sharing and have a fantastic day!ReplyCancel

  • Lyli @3dlessons4life.comMarch 31, 2015 - 9:29 am

    My husband calls those Fiber One Bars “Fart Bars.” Yep.

    So lovely to connect with you through Emily’s today.ReplyCancel

  • MindyMarch 31, 2015 - 1:17 pm

    Visiting from Emily’s today – what a beautiful family you have! I have never used Meyer lemons but love a tart lemon taste in baked goods.ReplyCancel

  • Lori HarrisMarch 31, 2015 - 2:28 pm

    Are you serious about those Fiber One bars????????? I’d have died. Seriously died.
    Love those pictures of your babies, Casey. They are beautiful.ReplyCancel

THIS mental organization method fascinates me and I think it’s the perfect addition to incorporate into the Passion Planner/Moleskin Notebook combo I use to somehow not go crazy and keep things in order as far as scheduling.

Fight like a girl.  Oh for more women who can bring the word like Jen Wilkins can. This is such a great reminder of our importance as women in God’s kingdom.  (it’s a 30 minute talk… so when you have time, listen to this and I promise you it will encourage the heck out of you!)

Why my kids are going to HATE me in the coming years of schooling. Write… write… write!!

Maybe in my world it’s “know WHAT to ignore” but THIS article on being productive and ignoring the right people is spot on to prioritizing your life and not letting all the undone things stress you out.

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Probably my most favorite blog lately specifically dealing with Adoption. Even if you’re not an adoptive mom you will still benefit from Jessica’s writing on The Mother Years.  I love what she wrote HERE as she talked about a dark season of her life: ” I went from sadness to kickassness. And hell shuddered because there’s nothing scarier to Satan than someone who knows their worth and can find happiness regardless of their circumstances.”

I want to try this recipe. We made the Pioneer woman’s olive cheese bread and it was just too rich, good but maybe less would be more in that recipe. But this recipe… it looks like it has potential.

Photographers…. I am just as guilty of this but working on getting better in this area. But THIS is a huge must read about CF cards, and why I always choose Sandisk as my memory card brand of choice!

This post from Seth Godin. I probably will include one of his posts every month because he writes with great clarity and makes you think and I usually really am impacted by something he writes each month.  ” Part of being our best selves is having the guts to not avert our eyes, to look closely at what scares us, what disappoints us, what threatens us. By looking closely we have a chance to make change happen.” 

Oh how I’m trying to implement THIS kind of Kindness into my parenting and into my interaction with others in general. As a yeller…. it’s tough. I know my words hurt and wound… and in the moment my words and tone and loudness are showing my fear, my distrust in God and my frustration at feeling out of control. I say I’m sorry often and I’m so thankful for the grace God gives my kids as they forgive me daily.

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Whenever I want a good laugh and a healthy mom dose of sarcasm… I pop on over HERE.   It’s Oh So FUNNY!

I know THIS probably wouldn’t work in every situation… especially since you’re probably curled up in a trunk if you’re in this predicament. BUT who knows, it might come in handy. Just like THIS trick of the “mother’s kiss” did when I watched it and a few weeks later Jack stuck a lego up his nose, It totally worked! Don’t think about it in the moment… you just have to do it.

 

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